Falling in love too fast? Here's how you slow it down
| Jun 6, 2019, 13:37 IST
With all the advanced and modern thinking that our generation has gotten into, it's really hard to find 'the one' or 'true love' or even for that matter 'a lifetime together. And this has ruined the simple definition of love and turned it into a confusing state of mind where you consider falling in love with every Tom, Dick and Harry. This is what happens in a typical situation now - You get to know someone, go out on a couple of dates and fall in love. Guys, if that's how quick you think love was to happen to you, then I have some bad news coming your way.
This is why, you need to give it time and follow the great old saying - Rome was not built in a day- and abide by it. If you're lucky, falling in love might come easy to you, but the whole situation turns to reality when you have to 'stay in love'. And that's when I'm going to help you out with how to slow it down and take each day as it comes rather than rushing into things and calling it love.
- First things first, don't meet the cutie too often. Of course, it's challenging to not make plans with the person you're attracted towards and you'd rather say yes to every single time they ask to hang out. But that'll only get you attached way too quickly. To top it, you certainly don't want to freak that person out with your utterly cheesy words and overly romantic gestures. Because chances are, they're only looking for a casual thing while you go all "I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with this person." Try and limit your meetings with once or twice a week. Go make plans with other people, meet your friends and socialise in general.
- Always meet the person when you're sober. You see, once you drink and get all tipsy and high, you don't really have any control over your emotions or for that matter even over yourself, physically (which means you might keep falling on that person in a very dramatic way.) And so, to avoid all the mishap, meeting them sober makes more sense as you know what you're talking about and by now must have mastered your emotions by following the previous point.
- Invest in yourself first and then everything/everybody else. Don't you know you're 10 times more attractive when you have your shit together, when you know how to love yourself and spread positive vibes around you? Once you start investing more in yourself, you will get to know your worth which will help you in not selling yourself too quick and easy.
Remember, true love only comes with patience because ultimately, you gotta mean it and not just say it.
This is why, you need to give it time and follow the great old saying - Rome was not built in a day- and abide by it. If you're lucky, falling in love might come easy to you, but the whole situation turns to reality when you have to 'stay in love'. And that's when I'm going to help you out with how to slow it down and take each day as it comes rather than rushing into things and calling it love.
- First things first, don't meet the cutie too often. Of course, it's challenging to not make plans with the person you're attracted towards and you'd rather say yes to every single time they ask to hang out. But that'll only get you attached way too quickly. To top it, you certainly don't want to freak that person out with your utterly cheesy words and overly romantic gestures. Because chances are, they're only looking for a casual thing while you go all "I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with this person." Try and limit your meetings with once or twice a week. Go make plans with other people, meet your friends and socialise in general.
- Always meet the person when you're sober. You see, once you drink and get all tipsy and high, you don't really have any control over your emotions or for that matter even over yourself, physically (which means you might keep falling on that person in a very dramatic way.) And so, to avoid all the mishap, meeting them sober makes more sense as you know what you're talking about and by now must have mastered your emotions by following the previous point.
- Invest in yourself first and then everything/everybody else. Don't you know you're 10 times more attractive when you have your shit together, when you know how to love yourself and spread positive vibes around you? Once you start investing more in yourself, you will get to know your worth which will help you in not selling yourself too quick and easy.
Remember, true love only comes with patience because ultimately, you gotta mean it and not just say it.