Tips on perfecting the art of saying no
| May 23, 2019, 11:35 IST
Now, for some people, it might come easy to simply, bluntly say 'No' to anything that the other person asks. But for many others, it is a challenge which mostly turns into a 'Yes' while their mind is screaming a big 'No' inside. But you have to understand this. It isn't that they're weak or that they don't know how to be blunt to someone. Their inability to say 'No' simply means that they care a little too much about other people and wouldn't want to hurt their feelings while everything inside them hurts.
Be it working extra time in the office or meeting a random friend at a really odd hour or even going out of the way to help a family member do something that they want to do, to some people it just doesn't come naturally to deny. No matter what the situation or day, they end up doing what's asked out of them and find it way too difficult to muster the courage to say 'No'.
This is why, I'm here to give these kind people some tricks on how to work on the art of saying a simple 'No':
- Stop explaining yourself all the time. One simple word is enough to justify the choice that you make. A 'No' doesn't always need a 'Because. This habit of you giving explanations every single time makes people get a chance to lull you into altering your 'No' to a 'Yes' without you actually wanting to go for the plan they've made for you.
- You can in fact give them an alternative of moving the plan to some other time or day and not simply say 'No' on their face. This way, the person won't feel bad about your denial and you won't feel bad about denying the plan for that particular day.
- Learning how to say 'No' is a whole process and not an instant act. Because for some people it's a challenge to deny to something instead of accepting it. This is why, it is important to remind yourself the reason why you're saying 'No' and not feel bad about it too. Eventually, you'll realise that you're much happier this way and don't have to give in to saying 'Yes' all the time for something you didn't even want to do.
Try these tips and see how nicely it works in real.
Be it working extra time in the office or meeting a random friend at a really odd hour or even going out of the way to help a family member do something that they want to do, to some people it just doesn't come naturally to deny. No matter what the situation or day, they end up doing what's asked out of them and find it way too difficult to muster the courage to say 'No'.
This is why, I'm here to give these kind people some tricks on how to work on the art of saying a simple 'No':
- Stop explaining yourself all the time. One simple word is enough to justify the choice that you make. A 'No' doesn't always need a 'Because. This habit of you giving explanations every single time makes people get a chance to lull you into altering your 'No' to a 'Yes' without you actually wanting to go for the plan they've made for you.
- You can in fact give them an alternative of moving the plan to some other time or day and not simply say 'No' on their face. This way, the person won't feel bad about your denial and you won't feel bad about denying the plan for that particular day.
- Learning how to say 'No' is a whole process and not an instant act. Because for some people it's a challenge to deny to something instead of accepting it. This is why, it is important to remind yourself the reason why you're saying 'No' and not feel bad about it too. Eventually, you'll realise that you're much happier this way and don't have to give in to saying 'Yes' all the time for something you didn't even want to do.
Try these tips and see how nicely it works in real.