Types of assumptions that couples tend to make in a relationship

Dhwani Vora | Jul 1, 2019, 13:41 IST
When we're in a relationship, we tend to start thinking that we understand each other all too well as we be with them for longer times. We start to know when they'd want to say what or what does a particular reaction would mean. All of it is good until it starts into you assuming what your partner thinks like. Assumptions are not always right, and no, you won't always figure out what your partner needs until they say it out themselves. And once you start assuming and believing that these assumptions are right, your relationship will go on a downhill. Hence, we're here to give our a few common assumptions that couples tend to make. These will help you understand that you need to stop assuming these things and rather communicate all of it to your partner to be clear.

- You can read each other's minds: No! You can't. Stop believing this just because you two have been together since a long time or have a great understanding of each other. It is very easy for this thought to mess with your head which will only mess with what you assume of what your partner is thinking. You don't always have to assume about your partner's mood. Simply ask them and they'll tell you.

- You complete each other: Well, that only sounds romantic but is really unrealistic. You sure can call your partner as someone who supports you all too well, but they certainly won't be the one to fulfil all your needs and so can't you for them. You do need other people around you - your friends, family, colleagues, etc. You really need to feel complete in your own self to feel happy with another person. Don't depend on someone to complete you and don't assume that you complete them.

- You have the same goals: When you're in a relationship, it is natural to think that you both have the same goals. But life goals differ from person to person and it is wrong to assume that you two want the same thing out of life. Always communicate and learn what your partner really aims at doing in life and let them know about your goals too. This way, both of you can help each other out to achieve the goals.

- The only way to go is up: This kind of an assumption will only bring you down. A relationship isn't a bed of roses, it is also phases full of negativity, which the two of you have to be strong enough to fight together. Always be ready to face relationship challenges rather than assuming that things are going to be fine only because you're in a good phase of life. Grow together all you can and you'll reach that stage of comfort sooner or later.

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