Want to diffuse a fight with your partner? This is how you do it
| Mar 31, 2020, 11:46 IST
When you are in a relationship, everything can't be a bed of rose always. There will be disagreements, there will be arguments which will later on turn into fights. It's common to have such issues in a relationship, but it isn't healthy if you let fights become the main thing to focus on. It's crucial to make sure that you and your partner have effective arguments because it makes your relationship grow. Most people believe that not fighting is a sign of a happy relationship when it actually isn't. But then, there are some who fight over petty and unimportant things which makes their relationship very negative. While there's no way to prevent a fight in a relationship, there are ways to calm your partner down and turn the situation around so that it becomes a productive and effective conversation instead of just quarrels.
Here's how you diffuse the fights with your partner:
- Learn to apologize for your temper. Ask your partner to give you some time to cool down and then address the problems properly but make sure you stay calm while you're at it.
- You need to let your partner know when they start to get personal and attack you and then also tell them when you begin to feel defensive. This will help them know when they're being hurtful and that they need to rephrase their sentences in order to avoid miscommunication.
- When you're in a fight, you often would lose your temper and use your partner as punching bag and vent things out. But know that it's okay to apologize and tell them what your real problem is and that you need their help. This will make your partner understand you better.
- If their behaviour makes you uncomfortable, let them know. It's completely fine to tell your partner that their anger and reaction is scaring you and it will help them calm down.
- You might not do something intentionally to hurt them but sometimes you just can't help the situation and it all goes haywire. It's then when you should realize that you need to apologize and explain to your partner about what hit you for the situation to worsen.
- You need to let your partner know when you don't understand what they're trying to say. Assuming things is the wrong way to go about it. Always ask, so that you are clear and they are clearer about what they want to convey.
Here's how you diffuse the fights with your partner:
- Learn to apologize for your temper. Ask your partner to give you some time to cool down and then address the problems properly but make sure you stay calm while you're at it.
- You need to let your partner know when they start to get personal and attack you and then also tell them when you begin to feel defensive. This will help them know when they're being hurtful and that they need to rephrase their sentences in order to avoid miscommunication.
- When you're in a fight, you often would lose your temper and use your partner as punching bag and vent things out. But know that it's okay to apologize and tell them what your real problem is and that you need their help. This will make your partner understand you better.
- If their behaviour makes you uncomfortable, let them know. It's completely fine to tell your partner that their anger and reaction is scaring you and it will help them calm down.
- You might not do something intentionally to hurt them but sometimes you just can't help the situation and it all goes haywire. It's then when you should realize that you need to apologize and explain to your partner about what hit you for the situation to worsen.
- You need to let your partner know when you don't understand what they're trying to say. Assuming things is the wrong way to go about it. Always ask, so that you are clear and they are clearer about what they want to convey.