Here's why money matters are important in a relationship
| Nov 9, 2018, 16:04 IST
As much as you may want to deny it, there's no doubt that money does matter to an individual. It is an important aspect of our lives and it has the power to make or break relationships. Here's why money matters in a relationship.
When you borrow money from family or a friend, often personal feelings get in the way. “The act of lending money is a gesture of kindness and good faith. Yet, this very act can be taken for granted. Many a time, since emotions are involved, neither party sets up deadlines or a repayment setup. Sometimes, the person who has loaned the money feels too embarrassed to ask for it, thereby resulting in a communication problem. One of the worst things you can do when you owe someone money is to avoid that person, especially when you’d call them or see them often,” says psychiatrist Gittanjali Saxena.
Money can play a rather important role in personal relationships as well. Neeta V Shetty, psychotherapist says, “The partner who is not earning may start feeling insecure, fearful and anxious. It may affect his/her self-esteem and self-confidence as well as instil feelings of guilt and helplessness.”
In a country like India, when the husband doesn't earn, it can lead to issues. “Such a marriage can lead to awkwardness in social groups where people share similar values. The wife may say that my husband doesn’t do anything and husband says, ‘I just sit at home’. The dynamics are affected by how the egos of the two people are in general. Some people may have a lot of arguments, behave aggressively, stop having friends, as there is always a big scene in front of friends. It also starts affecting families.” The best thing to do is to figure out and plan things accordingly so that there are no negative feelings in a household.
When you borrow money from family or a friend, often personal feelings get in the way. “The act of lending money is a gesture of kindness and good faith. Yet, this very act can be taken for granted. Many a time, since emotions are involved, neither party sets up deadlines or a repayment setup. Sometimes, the person who has loaned the money feels too embarrassed to ask for it, thereby resulting in a communication problem. One of the worst things you can do when you owe someone money is to avoid that person, especially when you’d call them or see them often,” says psychiatrist Gittanjali Saxena.
Money can play a rather important role in personal relationships as well. Neeta V Shetty, psychotherapist says, “The partner who is not earning may start feeling insecure, fearful and anxious. It may affect his/her self-esteem and self-confidence as well as instil feelings of guilt and helplessness.”
In a country like India, when the husband doesn't earn, it can lead to issues. “Such a marriage can lead to awkwardness in social groups where people share similar values. The wife may say that my husband doesn’t do anything and husband says, ‘I just sit at home’. The dynamics are affected by how the egos of the two people are in general. Some people may have a lot of arguments, behave aggressively, stop having friends, as there is always a big scene in front of friends. It also starts affecting families.” The best thing to do is to figure out and plan things accordingly so that there are no negative feelings in a household.